I am not into suffering for sufferings sake.
That’s just not how I live our life.
The whole martyr thing just sort of makes me sick. And I’ve seen far too much of that in our family. For some reason, it appears there is some sort of default that so numerous women in our family suffer to make a point. It’s the most passive aggressive nonsense I’ve ever seen. I vowed that I would not be one of those women in our family. If I have to deal with disappointment or manage difficult circumstances, I can do that. However, I’m not going to rest around in the HVAC comfort of our bedroom simply wringing our hands. That’s just not happening. If there is a solution to a problem, I’m not afraid of pointing in out & actively working toward a solution. This is true at work, at lake cabin & with our friends. I don’t suffer in silence hoping have a bunch of guilt to wield on other people’s emotions. What a waste of time. I finally got our sister to confront her partner about something that was just so stupid & yet went on year after year. And all it took was a bit of an HVAC replace to correct. My sister suffers from fairly sever allergies. But she does so in the most dramatic way possible. It’s as though this is the only way she can draw attention. It’s pathetic that sympathy is all she thinks she’s worth. The answer was a whole cabin air cleaner. And when I brought it up to her partner at a family party he was totally onboard.