I am not into suffering for sufferings sake.
That’s just not how I live my life. The whole martyr thing just sort of makes me sick. And I’ve seen far too much of that in my family. For some reason, it appears there is some sort of default that so many women in my family suffer to make a point. It’s the most passive aggressive nonsense I’ve ever seen. I vowed that I would not be one of those women in my family. If I have to deal with disappointment or manage difficult circumstances, I can do that. However, I’m not going to sit around in the HVAC comfort of my living room simply wringing my hands. That’s just not happening. If there is a solution to a problem, I’m not afraid of pointing in out and actively working toward a solution. This is true at work, at home and with my friends. I don’t suffer in silence hoping have a bunch of guilt to wield on other people’s emotions. What a waste of time. I finally got my sister to confront her husband about something that was just so stupid and yet went on year after year. And all it took was a bit of an HVAC upgrade to correct. My sister suffers from fairly sever allergies. But she does so in the most dramatic way possible. It’s as though this is the only way she can draw attention. It’s pathetic that sympathy is all she thinks she’s worth. The answer was a whole house air purifier. And when I brought it up to her husband at a family gathering he was totally onboard.