When my wife filed for divorce, I was really angry and upset.
I thought we were trying to work things out, but she was ready to give up.
She was probably ready to give up for several years, but I wasn’t paying attention. By the time I was ready to work on our marriage, she was already prepared to give up. I didn’t know what to do when she filed for divorce, so I consulted with a divorce attorney. The divorce attorney met with me for a free one hour consultation. During the consultation, the lawyer discussed his fees and my chances at winning the case. I really wanted to sue my wife for full custody of the kids. I was mad and angry and I wanted her to hurt as much as I did. The lawyer advised me not to file for full custody. He said it would be very expensive, time consuming, hard on the kids, and my chances of winning were very small. He gave me some really great advice. The lawyer told me to start seeing a divorce therapist. He gave me a couple of different names. He suggested that my anger might not be the best for our children and he urged me to talk with someone. That was the best advice that I received from anyone during the time when my wife and I were going through the divorce. It is always easier on the kids when the two of us get along well. The therapist helped me realize that we still need to be the best parents we can.