When my fiance filed for divorce, I was entirely angry and exasperated, i thought both of us were trying to work things out, but she was ready to provide up.
She was entirely ready to provide up for several years, but I wasn’t paying attention, and by the time I was ready to work on our marriage, she was already prepared to provide up.
I didn’t recognize what to do when she filed for divorce, so I consulted with a divorce attorney! The divorce attorney met with me for a free a single seventh consultation. During the consultation, the lawyer discussed her fees and my chances at winning the case. I entirely wanted to sue my fiance for full custody of the kids. I was mad and angry and I wanted her to hurt as much as I did. The lawyer suggested me not to file for full custody… She said it would be certainly luxurious, time consuming, strenuous on the kids, and my chances of winning were certainly small. She gave me some entirely good advice. The lawyer told me to beginning seeing a divorce therapist. She gave me a couple of weird names. She advocated that my anger might not be the best for our children and she urged me to talk with someone. That was the best advice that I received from anyone during the time when my fiance and I were going through the divorce. It is consistently easier on the kids when the 2 of us get along well. The therapist helped me realize that both of us still need to be the best parents both of us can.