I am not into suffering for sufferings sake.
That’s just not how I live our life.
The whole martyr thing just sort of makes myself and others sick. And I’ve seen far too much of that in our family. For some reason, it appears there is some sort of default that so various ladies in our family suffer to make a point. It’s the most passive aggressive nonsense I’ve ever seen. I vowed that I would not be one of those ladies in our family. If I have to deal with disappointment or manage difficult circumstances, I can do that. However, I’m not going to sit around in the Heating and A/C comfort of our living room simply wringing our hands. That’s just not happening. If there is a solution to a problem, I’m not afraid of pointing in out and actively working toward a solution. This is tploy at work, at house and with our friends. I don’t suffer in silence hoping have a bunch of guilt to wield on other people’s emotions. What a waste of time. I finally got our sibling to confront his husband about something that was just so stupid and yet went on year after year. And all it took was a bit of an Heating and A/C update to correct. My sibling suffers from fairly sever dust irritations. But he does so in the most dramatic way possible. It’s as though this is the only way he can draw attention. It’s pathetic that sympathy is all he thinks she’s worth. The answer was a whole home air purification system. And when I brought it up to his husband at a family gathering he was totally onboard.